These are unprecedented times and we as a nation are being pulled tightly. Tensions is exceedingly high as we wait for word on who will be the U.S. President. For months I’ve witnessed and engaged in difficult conversations fueled by primal feelings on both sides. Anger, rage, fear, passion and righteousness have saturated communities across the country.
As of this moment, this race has not been called but the outcome is looking more inevitable. Now that we are on the edge of an outcome, many wait with bated breath while some launch accusations and yet others prepare to celebrate. Let’s all remember we are humans having a wide range of emotional responses and it will all of us, no matter what side, to stay grounded and mindful that no matter what transpires, people will likely either be ecstatic or deeply disappointed.
We must remember we are all human and allow adequate space for feelings to be processed before reacting in ways that might be more damaging As much anger that has been whipped up, my hope is that we can all pause, reflect and be compassionate for the overall human experience in this country.
Healing relationships and healing this country hold some similarities; acknowledging pain, avoiding inflaming bad feelings with gloating and self-soothing feelings of hopelessness and despair will all be part of a process to give us a fighting chance for the nation to repair itself. If we don’t take a healing approach, we are at risk for a continued slide into more darkness.
I hope we can stop the hemorrhaging and look towards seeing our country as a whole rather than two sharply divided parts. We are all responsible for this and there are ways you can participate.
-> If you are pleased, celebrate with others who are pleased. Do not throw salt in wounds. Be humble.
-> If you are unhappy, seek support from others who feel this way and don’t let yourself spiral. This is a moment in time in a much larger life. Don’t despair.
The reality is that the division has been so extreme that each side sees the other as an existential threat which is very hard to resolve. But as much as the intense emotion preceding these days might lure you to behave in unkind or unproductive ways, for the sake of the emotional and psychological health of our country, do your part by rejecting this urge. We are all now responsible for the healing that needs to occur for a very important relationship to all of us; the one with our country.
Be humble. Don’t despair.loveandlifetoolbox.com by Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT